Party Etiquette
1. RELAX and GET ACQUAINTED
When at an on-premise swingers club or swinging
house party, you are there to have the best of times and to
share the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who
have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Once
you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff
members or host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you
would be at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to
introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager
to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of
sincere camaraderie.
2. SOME TIPS ON ETIQUETTE
While you are advised to be congenial
and outgoing, don't be "pushy". Many couples who are new to
"swinging" often have unrealistic expectations and are not
prepared to handle rejections that may sometimes occur.
Freshly showered, perfumed, and neatly dressed people make
more contacts. Don't let your personal physical
idiosyncrasies stop you from having a good time. No one is
perfect [although it is common for new "swingers" to see
others as more attractive or more verbal as themselves].
Don't let your own mind be your worst enemy. Be prepared to
handle rejection but don't take it personally.
It is important to remember that
PERSONAL CHOICE is the right of every individual and to
'respect that right' is only common courtesy. Learn how to
accept "no thank you" graciously. Your approach -- which
should be the same as it would be at any social setting --
is a key factor to your acceptance as a desirable
partner/friend.
There are several variations to
"swinging" and it is important that you and your mate
decide, in advance, those which you like and dislike. Some
couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer to be with
other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please
decide on them BEFORE you start "swinging".
3. JOIN THE CONVERSATION
Some people will probably "break the
ice" by introducing themselves, along with other couples
they know. It's their way of making you feel at home. Feel
free to join their conversation and you'll find that most of
them will be happy to answer any questions you may have
about the "swinging" lifestyle. Be open and honest. Tell
them that you are new to "swinging" and you'll discover how
helpful people can be.
4. START OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT
On your first venture into the
swinging scene, you may feel somewhat uneasy about seeing
your mate with someone else. Some "swingers" want to share
swinging with their mate and feel uneasy having their mate
leave to another room with someone. Everyone has their own
reasons for their feelings and all feelings are real and
should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or
disillusionment, discuss your inhibitions with your mate
beforehand. Both of you may be more comfortable after
talking to other couples and learning how they handled their
first "swinging" session.