As many of you are new to the swinging
scene, it has been suggested that perhaps some guidance on
contact etiquette would be useful.
Swingers are the same as everyone else, they like to be
treated with respect. Remember that although someone may be
exactly what you are looking for, the chances are that in
more than 50% of cases you will not be what they are looking
for. So when writing be polite and not pushy, read the ad
carefully to make sure you meet the advertisers
requirements.
Remember that if you are writing as a single to a couple,
you should expect to be involved in a 3 some, also remember
that most couples are here for partner swapping, so they may
not be interested in meeting singles.
The biggest thrill for most is the idea of having sex
with strangers, but sometimes people will lose their nerve.
If this happens to you, don't deride the other people,
understand that it could just as easily be you losing your
nerve.
Advertisers:
Please respond to all e-mails you
receive from respondents.
Most of them will have spent time
plucking up courage to write responding to your contact ads, and time thinking of
the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
It does not need to be a long letter,
a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you
for your response, but you do not match what I am currently
looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the
respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one
check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping
that someone has written back to me.
If you are an escort advertising for
business please advertise only in the escort section. If you
are an escort advertising for play friends please use a
different e-mail address from that used for your business.
If I am made aware of people being asked for payment when
responding to ads outside the escort area I will delete the
ad.
Respondents:
Always be polite.
Tell the advertiser what you like
about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet
their requirements.
If you enclose a picture show your
face - most people like to see the person, rather than a
piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will
then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it.
(some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they
will usually say so in their ad).
Keep the language clean, match your
response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore
letter.
If you are turned down by an
advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going
to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just
move on to the next advertiser.
I am sure that I have missed many
points, and that people will help me update this over the
next few weeks.